Thursday, April 12, 2012

some thoughts on staying at home

Staying-at-home is a topic of conversation this week thanks to some idiotic statements about Ann Romney not working a day in her life.

Let me first of all say this. I am not a Romney fan.  

Let me also say this - most of my friends are work-outside-of-the-home moms.  Very few of my friends are stay-at-home moms.

There are work-outside-of-the-home-moms who do a fabulous job. There are those who don't.  There are stay-at-home moms who do a fabulous job. There are those who don't.

But whatever is said, do not say that stay-at-home-moms do not work.  I work just as hard (if not harder) with being at home than I did while I was teaching.


Also, I have several friends who have said to me, "I could not do what you do." They say this for a variety of reasons. Temperment/personality.  They like their job. They like (or in some cases need) their double income. They would go crazy being stuck at home all day without adult interaction (I get this. Believe me - I get this.)  So I am not offended by this statement. And I hope they would not be offended if I said the same, "I could not do what you do," to them. Because I couldn't.  I really love my current job. Sure, they pay stinks. No vacation time, no medical insurance benefits. But I'm good at it. And it fits my personality. And somehow (well thanks to the grace of God, The Hubs working his butt off AND going back to school,  and some help from family) we are surviving on one income.

So please don't say that stay-at-home moms don't work. And I won't say that work-outside-of-the-home-moms don't care about their kids. Because neither is true. So let's be okay with each others' choices.

11 comments:

  1. True story! I nodded along with everything you said :)

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    1. I feel like we have so much in common when I read your blog, Meg.

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    2. I feel like we have so much in common when I read your blog, Meg.

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  2. EXACTLY! Where as I totally think that it benefits every child to have a parent at home, I know sometimes that is not going to work. Whatever the reason. However, I do believe that whether you are a work-out-of-the-house parent or a work-in-the-home parent you MUST consider what your children need!

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    1. Absolutely - and those needs have to come first. Selfish and parent are two words that should never go together.

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  3. I had this EXACT conversation with my husband when that story came out. I have friends, who are GREAT [working] moms. I have no idea what life is like for them and I'm pretty sure they would say that they don't know what life is like for me as a stay-at-home mom. One thing is for sure, we all love our kids. Isn't parenting stressful enough without giving each other such a hard time?!! *high five, mamas* I think we're all doing great. :)

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  4. Stopping by UBP. I think it's wonderful that you stay at home with your kids. It's something that while I think might drive me crazy, I would absolutely love to do. I can't stand that I'm missing out of so much of my child's toddlerhood because he's at daycare all day long. Unfortunately, we can't afford for me to stay home right now. Maybe someday!

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    1. I did some work from home this year to help supplement the income, but that has ended. I need to find something part-time, but we are waiting to find out some test results from our youngest before I make any applications/decisions. We are blessed in that a couple family members help us by sending diapers, giftcards, money. Otherwise I don't know how I would stay home - I don't know how I do somedays on paper right now, either! ;)

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  5. I left a comment this morning but it's disappeared. I hope there was nothing offensive in it. If there was, I'm so SO sorry!!

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    1. I never saw a comment from you this morning. :( I wonder what happened. Crazy computer. Feel free to leave it again if you want.

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    2. I probably deleted it by accident or never hit publish. Gotta love the full-blown flu (for mama and baby, talk about sleep deprivation).

      It just said that my husband and I had this exact same conversation when this story came out!

      I have great friends who are GREAT working moms. I have no real idea what life is like for them and I think they would probably say that they don't know what life is like for me as a stay at home mom, either. We each have to do what's right for our own families. Parenting is hard enough as it is. We should be each other's cheerleaders instead of tearing each other down.

      So with that, I'd just like to say ... I think we're all doing GREAT!

      *high five, mamas!*

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