Friday, April 27, 2012

five minute friday - community

joining with The Gypsy Mama for Five Minute Friday.  Today's topic is community.
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My toddler flushed his underwear down the toilet today while I was doing the laundry.  The Hubs works until 7:00, and my one year old has been fussy, fussy, fussy.  It's days like this that make me feel the isolation of motherhood, that make me long for more community.

I want to drink coffee (or something fruitier and stronger, perhaps) with half a dozen women roughly my age.  I want to laugh and cry and lose track of the time because the conversation is so good.
This doesn't happen enough. Life is busy. Lack of transportation and childcare. My own motivation sometimes wanes.

But there are pockets of moments in which I experience community. Some small talk on a Wednesday night. A friend bringing coffee to me. Another showing up to help give me a sanity break with my babies.
And I find community online. Reading mommy blogs is sometimes my online "lifeline" during a long day at home. Old friends give me advice or share a laugh on facebook, and I am renewed a little bit somehow.
Community beats coffee any day of the week. But in an ideal world, I could have both.

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11 comments:

  1. Oh how I hear what you're saying! This week has been especially difficult for me to cope with the isolation of motherhood. Being home with my child is an amazing gift, but the lack of communication with other women really does drive me insane sometimes. Keep up the good work, new friend! The days are long but the years are short.

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    1. I know! I had to remind myself just what a gift it is today. I think I would go crazy if I ever lost internet access for an extended period of time. The blogosphere is my water cooler.
      Thanks for stopping by! We are all in this together somehow, aren't we?

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  2. I totally feel this post! It can be SO lonely at home with kids!! Yep, we're all in this together :)

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    1. I know you get this! Thankful to have "met" you here on blogland, friend!

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  3. Hey there, thanks for stopping by! I can so relate to your situation as well. My littles are almost 4 years and 2 1/2. We are right in the thick of it as mamas aren't we? You seem to have a balanced perspective while acknowledging the challenges though, especially with the coffee, hehe ;)

    www.rookiemammamusings.blogspot.com

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  4. Oh, and I love the name of your blog by the way - very creative. : )

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    1. Thank you. It summed up my life a few years ago... and STILL sums it up. ;)

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  5. Wouldn't it be great if we could have coffee AND community all together?! Your words about feeling isolated and feeling like the online community somehow makes you feel renewed...I totally get it. Hello, my name is Sarah, I have three children and a husband who works 24 hour shifts at a time...and I lack community. Hugs and prayers to you, Amanda!

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    1. Thanks for the prayers and encouraging comment, Sarah. You must be a firefighters wife! (My dad was a firefighter - 24 hours on, 48 off).

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  6. While I have not been in your position yet, I do have friends who are. While I miss the times we have just her and I, I cherish the times we have with her sons!

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    1. Sounds like you are a great friend! It is always a blessing when my friends stop by - the kids like them, too. Win-win.

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Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts with me.