Sunday, February 26, 2012

the marriage letters - I know you love me when...

Really loving the link-up/series Amber is hosting on the marriage letters - it is challenging me to take a deeper look at my marriage, to notice not just the big things.  This week's prompt is, "I know you love me when..."

Dear M,

Driving home tonight after meeting with a few friends I felt myself a tad bit tense, a little stressed, even though you texted and said, "The boys have been fed, changed, and are in their jammies.  Take all the time you need."

Yet I still worried that I had been gone too long, taken too much time for myself.  Twice in one weekend you deliberately and specifically enabled me to take time for myself.  Not because I earned it. Not because we have some 50-50 agreement. It was because you love me, and you know I am a better mommy, wife, and PERSON when I have time for myself and time to engage with others.

I don't know why I worried about taking too much of this gift of time you gave me.

The kids were in bed when I got home. The high chair trays were clean. The kitchen sink was empty. The toys were all picked up.   I  know you love me when you remind me in ways as simple as this that our marriage is 100-100.

Thanks for a simply lovely weekend.



  1. Very cool! What a good man you have there!

  2. It sounds like you got a well-deserved break. I like marriages that are 100-100.

  3. It sounds like you got a well-deserved break. I like marriages that are 100-100.

  4. isn't it hilarious - how you come home after an hour or two and it's like you've been gone DAYS? so related to this!

  5. what a guy! i love it when they reassure us that things are under control. the freedom in "take all the time that you need." even though we're horrible as moms at following through on that!
    so glad you had some time out.

  6. Mommy breaks rock. I'm so thankful, too, when my husband makes sure I get them.


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