Did anyone else have the Muppet/John Denver Christmas album where I think Gonzo and Miss Piggy sing this song? True confession - still one of my favorite Christmas albums ever because it takes me back to being six years old.
Anyhoo ... this post is mostly for family who have asked Christmas-present-questions, although there is a mommy-advice question at the end of the post.
Christmas is just a couple of months away, and sadly the goose is not gettin' fat at our house. Just when we thought we'd be able to give again this Christmas (because our medical bills are paid off), we had the gigantic plumbing issue. So we do not want/need anything. I know I have said this to some, and still have been asked what the boys want/need for Christmas.
They do not need any more toys.
I hope that doesn't sound harsh. Just fact. We are grateful for what they have been given. The only possible toy Bugaboo may need is a new shape sorter because big brother lost the lid (the shape sorting part) and 54% of the shapes. Educational gifts are good. Experiences would make a great Christmas gift. A zoo membership for our family to use in the spring/summer/fall would be an idea. Parent-and-me swim classes for either or both boys. Preschool "scholarship" to send Bubby one day a week next year. Consumable art supplies for Bubby (We go through crayons, markers, watercolors and construction paper like nobody's business.) Board books for Bugaboo. I know some have given us the gift of airline tickets to see California family. We are very excited and thankful for this gift because time with the people we love is the best gift of all.
But before Christmas is Bugaboo's first birthday. I hate that his birthday is so close to Christmas. As a January baby, I always wanted to avoid having my children born in December or January because people tend not to care as much about those birthdays thanks to cruddy weather and the consumerism stress of the holidays. Anyhoo - I am a little stressed because I want my second born's day to be special. As special as our oldest. I get sad when I look at the cards and notes that were sent when Bubby was born compared to when Bugaboo was born. Maybe I am overthinking. Maybe Bugaboo will not care one iota in the future, but when you are the second-born, same-gender as the first-born, born just a year-and-a-half-after-big-brother child, it seems you already have some things stacked against you.
Am I overthinking? What can I do to rid myself of this guilt? What can I do to make sure Bugaboo gets just as much "specialness" as Bubby did? Suggestions? Advice? Or just get over it?