Sunday, July 31, 2011

I stressed a little yesterday... (and MM 744-757)

I stressed a little yesterday.
We invited people over for dinner - this is the second time we've done this (different people) in just a few weeks. One of my new goals is to become more hospitable.  I have always been pro-hospitality, and I love people and being around them. Yet my fears and insecurities have hindered me more than they should have. 
In the hours leading up to their arrival I worried - about the trash from the house behind us that blew into our yard, about the lack of playroom or basement for the kids (of a variety of ages) to play in, about my potato dish didn't turn out so I had to change my plan to minute rice, etc.

But when they arrived a few minutes late because my new friend confessed she had dropped something on the way out the door - and so she finished up her offering when they got to our place- I felt at ease. The kids (though girls and mostly older than my boys) played beautifully, we ate and chatted, and I forgot about the size of my house and location of my neighborhood and just shared life for a few hours.

When it was all said and done, The Hubs and I looked at each other and said, "That worked out.  Let's keep doing this." 

Joining with Ann's group to give thanks for gifts 744-757
the chance to work at home this fall ~ reminders everywhere that life is FULL ~ free DVDs from the library ~ the sound of Bugaboo laughing at Bubby ~ weekend for the first time all summer without The Hubs having homework ~ amazing mentor meeting at church ~ hearing a friend's good news ~ koinonia ~ tears that flow freely with hymns and a Revelation song ~ something new on the horizon for intergenerational connections

3 comments:

  1. I know exactly how you feel! How easy it is to get caught up in all the little details. Thanks for the great reminder to focus on what really matters in this case...fostering friendships.

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  2. A friend shared this with me and it has been on my mind and heart ever since...."One of the reasons we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with other's highlight reel." Steven Furtick
    I'll bet your guests had a wonderful time. I think most of us moms who have a busy home do struggle with the imperfections around us in our homes..I have always felt that it reflected me and so, therefore, I fretted more. It has taken a long time for me to get into my comfort zone and let a lot of the little things go...and have fun. =O) Your rolls up there look very yummy! =O)

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  3. Oh my goodness, it's almost like you posted how I've often felt about having people over to my house! And it's not that I don't have the hospitable spirit. Because honestly, I do, very much! It's that when my house is in "shambles" or disorganized it makes me feel like it would be stupid to invite others over, worried about being judged, etc. I am working on organizing my house more now than I have for a little while -- being newlywed, we combined households so that in and of itself is challenging to work with! haha But at the same time, I intend to invite more friends over than I have so far, and just deal with it. Because chances are, they will overlook the cluttered rooms and corners, if they are true friends and just want to spend time with us. That's what I've discovered, anyhow! :) Good for you, stepping outside your comfort zone! Wasn't it fun? :)

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