Tuesday, July 27, 2010
the almost argument
The other day either my husband or I commented on how we really couldn't remember when we had last had a fight.
Then last night The Hubs and I almost had an argument. Over something so stupid that I almost laugh now thinking about it. Almost. :)
We had the pre-argument - the warm-up phase which three to five years ago may have led us to fighting about everything under the sun after we moved on past the silly non-issue at hand. But we didn't.
Instead he said something to the effect of "You just always want to be right," and I went to the other room to play with Buddy after saying, "Whatever," and thinking of all the things I would like to really say. (And I am guessing The Hubs went off doing the same.)
But we didn't say them. And I know in my head in just the few minutes before dinner I stopped dwelling on the phrases I would utter to have the last word, and started thinking how I do always like to be right, and if it is worth it on these stupid things. (And on some of the things that aren't so stupid, either.)
Dinner began with "I love you's" and apologies, and I sat grateful and amazed at the difference between the first year of marriage and the fifth. No tears, no yelling, no regretting - just a little wisdom to take a few minutes before we do something we cannot erase.
Just an ordinary Monday night last night, but I am starting to love ordinary.